So... I'm finally back to work after being off since last Wednesday. I'm not happy about it. But all good things must come to an end, right? I did get a lot of Christmas shopping done though, so that helps.
Actually, the last week has been a little stressful. The family drama I hinted around about last week? Yeah, I'm going to talk about it in this post.
As it turns out, my sister - yes, the one who just turned 20, and yes, the one who acts like she is 12 - is pregnant. As in, 7 MONTHS pregnant. And because she was too irresponsible to tell our parents about it, or get herself to a doctor... I was the one who had to break the news to our parents. When I found out for sure (from my sister in law) I was so angry that I was shaking. Yes, I get how this is going to change her life... but what I was the most pissed about was the fact that she was so selfish and irresponsible that she knew about this for 7 whole months and had yet to see a doctor.
Now, unlike the rest of my siblings my sister has been handed everything - yes, everything - her entire life. She works part time at a donut shop and my parents pay her bills for her. We won't even get into how incredibly frustrating this is for me and my siblings, that is a whole different story. But the fact that she has not had to work for anything at all has made her quite self centered and selfish. Do you think she was saving the money she has been earning for the last 7 months in preparation for her child? Nope. She's been doing things such as getting her nails done and shopping, etc. This irritates me. A lot. Oh, and let's not forget to mention that my sister admitted she has been smoking and drinking the entire time she has been pregnant.
At first, my parents were angry, but now they have done a complete 180 and decided that, since they love her, they are going to be supportive. Excuse me, but are you f*cking kidding me? I'm not saying they should completely turn their backs on her, but seriously... my sister has never been forced to be accountable for anything, including this, obviously. My stepmom has even forced my sister in law into helping her plan a baby shower for this weekend. By the way, I was told that I am expected to be there. My sister admitted that had I not told our parents about her pregnancy, she would have kept it a secret until she gave birth. But now we will be having a baby shower for her to reward her for it.
I'm beyond disgusted. For reasons I won't get into, I'm convinced my sister has done this on purpose. Let's just say, she has had a few other pregnancy "scares."
This was pretty much the icing on the cake for me. I had a long talk with my stepmom about how I've had it with the way my sister treats everyone and then acts like we all owe her something. My stepmom pretty much justified her behavior by saying she was the same way when she was my sister's age and hopefully she will mature. Really? Hopefully? Whatever.
I don't even know what to do at this point. Not only has my sister screwed up big time (and I can't even honestly say I was surprised), but my parents are continuing to put up with it.
It's sad, really, because the person who will pay the most for this is the child who didn't ask for any of it.
This really mirrors what happened to my youngest sister almost 3 years ago. She was 18 when she got pregnant, and she kept it a secret until it became obvious due to the large bump forming, she smoked, drank, went nightclubbing for the majority of her pregnancy. She had the baby, and lives at my parents house so pretty much leaves the baby in my mums care while she goes out most friday and saturday nights. I love my sister to pieces but she's being irresponsible. I think my mum should put her foot down and say no to my sister, say sorry but shes your responsibility. The baby is now almost 3 years old and my sister is 21. Her life is really complicated because of the baby. Saying that, the baby is really well behaved and knows her please and thankyous. i wonder how much of that is my sisters contibutions to the upbinging and how much of it is my parents influence.
ReplyDeleteWhateve happens I think you have to show suppot to your sister, you never know perhaps having a baby might make her wise up a little
*hugs*
sammy
I really hope you are right... the part about how this may make her grow up a little. But I'm not so sure that will happen as long as my parents continue to hand her everything.
ReplyDeleteBeen in this situation and now my sister uses her kids as leverage to get whatever she wants. Same thing, spoiled brat, and my parents still support her and her "decisions" and my parents have her kids all of the time. My heart goes out to you and I hope you have a better outcome than my family's!
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ReplyDeleteThis sounds exactly like my cousin...circa 2007. Her and her scummy boyfriend were living with my aunt at the time [long story] and she got pregnant, but managed to hide it for 6 months because she "didn't know" she was pregnant. She was talking about it in her nursing class and one of the girls in the class mentioned it to my aunt [her mom's best friend.]
ReplyDeleteFast forward 2.5 years and she's still too immature to raise a child. Between myself and her mom, we are more motherly towards the child. And the other day, we went to the store, she didn't even buckle the child into the car seat properly. When I threw a fit [I didn't realize this until we got to the store] her reasoning was "it's too hard to adjust the straps to buckle her in. besides, I drive safe."
It was at that point I pointed out the 2 stop signs she ran and the 4 rolling stops.
Sorry for rambling. I just hope that your sister will change for her child.